Saying “no” is a way to protect our time and energy, but many of us still say “yes” when we really mean “no”.

Utilize the tips below to say “no” more often;

Say “No” when…
- You feel anything less than “hell yeah!” about doing it
- It doesn’t add value and/or energy to your life
- You’re saying yes to people please
Create Rules
- Add structure and non negotiable boundaries for consistency
Create Scripts
- Write out 2-3 polite responses ahead of time
  - Ex. I’m not able to make it work but thank you for thinking of me.
  - Ex. No, thanks.
- Keep it simple— You don’t have to explain yourself!
Check in with Thoughts & Feelings
- Resentment after saying yes means that no is a better answer
- Understand the thoughts/stories getting in the way
  - Ex. I’m letting people down if I say no

Question: When is the last time you said yes because you were trying to please the other person?

Action: It’s okay to change your mind after saying yes. Reach out and retract the yes if there’s something on the horizon you’re dreading.

💜 a good quote…

“People pleasers are liars. They say yes when they mean no. They say it’s okay when it’s not okay.” - Unknown

“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no to people.” - Unknown