Tips for Saying No

Written By Jenna Rykiel

Saying “no” is a way to protect our time and energy, but many of us still say “yes” when we really mean “no”.

Utilize the tips below to say “no” more often;

  • Say “No” when…

    • You feel anything less than “hell yeah!” about doing it

    • It doesn’t add value and/or energy to your life

    • You’re saying yes to people please

  • Create Rules

    • Add structure and non negotiable boundaries for consistency

  • Create Scripts

    • Write out 2-3 polite responses ahead of time

      • Ex. I’m not able to make it work but thank you for thinking of me.

      • Ex. No, thanks.

    • Keep it simple— You don’t have to explain yourself!

  • Check in with Thoughts & Feelings

    • Resentment after saying yes means that no is a better answer

    • Understand the thoughts/stories getting in the way

      • Ex. I’m letting people down if I say no

Question: When is the last time you said yes because you were trying to please the other person?

Action: It’s okay to change your mind after saying yes. Reach out and retract the yes if there’s something on the horizon you’re dreading.

💜  a good quote…

“People pleasers are liars. They say yes when they mean no. They say it’s okay when it’s not okay.” - Unknown

“You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no to people.” - Unknown

Jenna Rykiel
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