121. How to Set Boundaries Without Giving Away Your Power
If you’ve ever set a boundary with your partner, your kids, or your family and then felt even more frustrated when they didn’t respect it, there’s a good chance what you set wasn’t actually a boundary. It was a rule. And understanding the difference can completely change the way you think about boundaries and your own sense of control.
In this episode, I share a coaching conversation that helped one of my clients see her boundaries in a completely different way. I explain why a boundary isn’t about what you want someone else to do. It’s about what you will do when someone else behaves a certain way. I share examples from marriage, parenting, and everyday life to show how this shift can help you feel more empowered instead of helpless, frustrated, or resentful.
And this matters far beyond our personal relationships. When we feel like things are out of our control at home, it affects the energy and confidence we bring to our businesses, too. I’ll help you think through where you might be giving away your power and what it could look like to take it back by focusing on what you can control: your own actions.
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What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
The difference between a boundary and a rule, and why that distinction matters.
Why boundaries should focus on what you will do rather than what someone else needs to do.
How depending on someone else to uphold your boundary can leave you feeling frustrated and powerless.
How to create boundaries that keep you in control of your own actions.
Real examples of boundaries with partners, kids, and family members.
How feeling more empowered in your personal life can change the way you show up in your business.
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If you've ever set a boundary with your partner, your kids, your family, and then felt even more frustrated when they didn't respect it, there's a good chance what you set wasn't actually a boundary. It was a rule. And that tiny distinction might be the reason your boundaries are leaving you feeling more powerless instead of more empowered.
Today, I want to show you that difference. I want to give you some examples because this came up in a coaching session recently, and it completely changed the way my client was looking at a situation in her marriage. It left her feeling so much more empowered. And I think it might change the way you think about and utilize boundaries, too.
Welcome to How to Quit Your Job, the podcast for moms ready to ditch the nine-to-five and build a life and business they love. I’m your host, Jenna Rykiel. Let’s go.
Hi, mom friends. My kids are finally back in school, and it feels so, so good. If you're part of the crew whose kids didn't go back until August 31st this year, I see you. I'm here for you. I feel like the entire month of August was full of moments where I wasn't the mom I wanted to be. We had very little childcare in August, which made navigating work and life so complicated. Don't get me wrong, I love hanging out with my kids. I have two. I have a four-year-old named Adley and a two-year-old named Jude.
I also love that my husband and I have flexible schedules. We're both entrepreneurs, so we can basically make anything work. And also, I love when my kids and when I'm back into a routine with school. I love that they are no longer barging into my office during client sessions. And although every client of mine is so gracious and understanding, I'm sure they are glad it's over, too. So, a shout out to teachers and educators. You make me such a better mom.
Today's topic is a request that I had straight from a client. I love that every day I'm in the work and every day there are moments in sessions that inspire topics for episodes. And every now and then, I have a client say to me, you need to do an episode on this. I've shared a lot on this podcast about how the coaching I do is more than business coaching. It's more than helping moms figure out a marketable idea. It's more than helping them create clients, make money, and everything in between within business. It's more than business. It's life coaching because as we evolve our business, we are evolving as humans. And so it's essential that I help moms process and evolve in their personal life just as much as it's important that I help them build a business.
And I think today's conversation is such a good example of why and how that works, actually, because if you're a mom trying to start or build a business, you don't stop being a wife, a mom, an employee, a daughter, a friend. All of those parts of your life come with you.
You can have the best business strategy in the world, but if you're spending all of your energy feeling resentful, helpless, frustrated, or like everything at home depends on you, you're not going to have the same energy available to build something of your own.
So yes, today we're talking about boundaries, but we're also talking about something I coach on constantly, which is how to stop giving away your power in one area of your life so you can show up more powerfully in all of them. We can't build a strong business without a strong foundation within ourselves. And I'm really excited about the next interview coming out either next week or the following with my good friend Alexina, where we actually dive deeper into that piece, the strong foundation within ourselves. It's imperative that we work through all the sticky stuff in order for you to build a business and a life that you love.
So, one of the topics that I'm very regularly coaching on that seemingly has nothing to do with business is relationships, and one very important relationship at that, our marriage. It's rare that I work with a client who is married and their partner never comes up. In fact, I think that every single married client of mine has had at least one coaching session where we worked through some frustration, annoyance, disappointment, or anger that had to do with their partner. This is incredibly normal. When we decide to share our lives with someone, we are signing up for a lot of compromise, a lot of adjusting, a lot of sacrificing, and having to navigate not only our own mental drama, but someone else's mental drama. Throw kids on top of that, and it takes a lot of intention and effort to keep relationships feeling satisfactory.
Now, if you are a single mom and you are listening, this episode is still for you. I'm going to use an example from a client's marriage, but the boundaries themselves, they do not just apply to our partners. And I'll go into some examples outside of marriage. So stick with me if you are a single mom, but I am going to give an example of a relationship, a partner, a marriage, because so many of us struggle with boundaries with our partners. And so it's a really good place to start.
So this client of mine, actually, she's also seeing a couples therapist, which again, is not rare for my clients, actually. My clients are people who want to solve problems, they want to create change, and they have a vision for how something should be in their life. And if it's not meeting that, they're going to do something about it. Those are my clients.
So I've trod a bit lightly, not wanting to step on toes. I'm not a marriage therapist, but it became clear to me that couples counseling was no longer feeling good for her. It was no longer really working. And it wasn't feeling good because the other person wasn't holding up their end of the bargain. My client felt helpless. She felt exasperated. She felt like the world and all the responsibility of the family was falling on her. Not to mention, she's starting a business on the side of a full-time job to get the family in a better financial place. So not only is she the breadwinner, but she's also going above and beyond to make sure her family has financial stability. But she's also at her wit's end, feeling like everything is out of her control, which led to a conversation that her and I had about boundaries.
Now, she was very familiar with boundaries. She had been trying to enforce boundaries with her partner. She had been trying to take care of herself with boundaries, and it just felt like it wasn't working. She'd set a boundary and find herself feeling even worse when it wasn't upheld. And I told her, you're doing boundaries all wrong. And that's what we're going to talk about today, how to do boundaries the right way.
Boundaries are an important opportunity for empowerment. When done right, there is no way that a boundary can leave you feeling helpless or out of control because boundaries are all about control, the control that you have, and they do not depend on someone else following the rules.
So let's take a look at this. I'm going to just make up an example, and this is not necessarily a boundary that I've enforced. It might be, but of course it is inspired by a true story. Let's say that my partner, Chris, is always late. I'm sure I've mentioned this before on the podcast, and to his credit, after 13 years together, he's much better. But in those early years, he was always late. I tried so many things. I tried threats, I tried reminders, I tried really explaining and being direct about how I felt. There was a part of me that decided him being late meant that he didn't care about me or my time. I will say, for anyone in this position, I've done a lot of my own work, and we've done a lot of work together since then where not only is he better, but we've also realized he's just time blind. This means that I make all the decisions in the family around timing of things, and I rule with an iron fist around that.
Anyway, I think partners being late could probably be its own episode, but let's say I had a boundary that if he was going to be late, he needed to let me know in advance. He would either have to call or text to let me know in advance. And this is actually a boundary that I had set early on. This feels good on the surface. It's like I'm sticking up for myself. I'm telling him clearly that this is what I need, and it's a pretty fair and decent compromise. But this boundary, even if he agrees to it wholeheartedly, is extremely problematic.
It's actually more of a rule than a boundary. And rules can often be broken, both on purpose and accidentally. And what happens when it's broken? What happens when he loses track of time and is late and then also doesn't call or text? A complete blow-up will follow because he didn't respect the boundary. He agreed and he didn't do it. I'm giving him all of my power with that boundary by deciding that all will be good if he takes action in the way that upholds the boundary.
If our boundaries depend on other people, we will likely be disappointed, maybe not all the time, but it's not foolproof. They are human. They will mess up, just like we mess up, especially because our boundaries are often based on what we think is easy and makes sense, not necessarily what is easy for them. If it was easy, I'm sure they'd be doing it.
So what do we do instead? What is a way to create a boundary that leaves us feeling in control and feeling empowered? A boundary is not what you want someone else to do. A boundary is what you will do as a consequence of someone else's behavior. Let me show you what this looks like and how it's different. Instead of saying you need to text or call if you're going to be late, that's the boundary that depends on him and whether he acts in a certain way. Okay, I'm giving all of my power to him in that boundary. Instead, I could say something like, if you are late and you don't text or call, I'm leaving without you.
I actually do think this is one that I did implement at one point. I think it was pre-kids when we had an event we were going to. I said, if you aren't home by whatever time it was that we needed to leave, I'm going to leave without you. And guess what? He was on time. But also, if he wasn't, I'm in control. I leave and I get to go to the event at the time I want to get there. I can also do this without a ton of anger and resentment because suddenly I'm in control, which feels really good.
Another example, I remember my coach giving an example a while back about her mom that I thought was really powerful. So she had a bit of an overbearing mom that would just show up at her house unannounced and she hated that. My coach hated that. So for years, she had a boundary with her mom that you have to call before you come over. And her mom just didn't uphold that boundary. And it led to more frustration, more anger, more resentment, and truly a terrible relationship with her mom.
So then she set a proper boundary. She figured it out, right? She said, "Mom, if you come over without texting or calling first, I'm not unlocking the door for you." Now, here's the really important thing about proper boundaries that keep us in control. It only works if you actually do what you say you're going to do. Her mom does not learn to reach out before she comes over if my coach lets her in anyway. My coach has to lock the door and she has to stand behind that.
We are adults with free will, so we can technically do whatever we want. Her mom can show up whenever she wants. But in a world with free will, there also has to be consequences. There's consequences of the door staying locked and you not being let in if you come over unannounced. There's consequences that I leave for the event without you if you're not back by a certain time. If you don't uphold your own boundary, then it makes sense that someone else also will not uphold your requests.
This is also a really helpful tool with kids. If you have a boundary around, let's say, not hitting your brother, and then your son hits their brother, which never happens in my house. Just kidding, it's like an hourly occurrence. It's always a fight. But if I have a boundary not to hit and my son hits, there's an elevated level of disappointment or anger or frustration that happens because my son didn't uphold my boundary.
So instead, if we're setting a proper boundary, I would say something like, "If you hit your brother, I'm going to remove you from the area because it's my job to keep everyone safe." With that, I am in control. I act in a way that upholds the boundary. It doesn't depend on my son not hitting. It's what I'm going to do if he hits. He hits and I take action. I'm empowered to remove him, just as I promised would happen if he hit.
Another example that happens all the time is in the bath. My two-year-old and four-year-old, they're always best friends, and then the biggest enemies. And so they'll be in the bath and they will be fine. And then suddenly they will be splashing and hitting and at war. And I have to say, if you do X, I'm going to take you out of the bath. I will say nine times out of 10, one of them will do whatever the thing is I said, you know, whether splashing water out of the tub, whether it's hitting their brother, whether it's taking the toy, and then I just remove them from the tub. Okay?
We are empowered. We are taking action and we are not depending on somebody else necessarily listening to us or upholding our rules. Why we don't want to do that is because we give our power away to somebody else. I know I said this before, but when we are depending on somebody else's behavior, our happiness or our satisfaction depends on them. We don't want that. We don't want our satisfaction in anything in life to depend on somebody else.
For my client, this whole concept and this new way of thinking and looking at boundaries and utilizing boundaries, it brought a ton of relief because it was no longer that she had to depend on her partner to uphold or follow a boundary. It was now that she got to decide how she was going to respond when he behaved in a certain way. It's enormously empowering. And all of this may sound like it has nothing to do with business, but it has everything to do with business. If we are feeling small and like life is out of control at home, we're not going to show up as our most powerful selves when we're working on the business. Even if we try to hide it or brush it aside and focus on our business, it just doesn't work like that.
The parts of our life that feel out of our control, they will be distractions, they will be energy sucks, and they will absolutely impact how we make decisions. And we will make decisions in a less empowering way. It's so important that we see ourselves as one human, not compartmentalize the parts of ourselves that feel mutually exclusive, because the person who is at home trying to enforce boundaries to take better care of herself is the same person who is at the networking event talking about her business idea. Both versions need to feel empowered. Both versions need to feel like they are in control of their life. Boundaries, when done in the right way, are a really powerful tool to do that with.
So I want to leave you with this question. Where in your life are you calling something a boundary, but it actually requires someone else to behave differently in order for you to feel okay? And what would change if instead you asked, what am I going to do? Not what do they need to do, not what should they do, not what would make my life easier if they would just freaking do it. What am I going to do? Because that's where our power is.
And this is exactly the kind of work we do in coaching on a weekly basis. So if you're a mom who has been thinking about starting a business or you've already started one and you're trying to figure out how to actually build alongside your job, your kids, your marriage, all the things in life, I want you to know that we don't just work on the business in isolation. Okay? We work on the whole person building the business.
Sometimes that means figuring out your offer or how you're going to find clients. Sometimes it means working through the fear of leaving a career where you've always known exactly what was expected of you. And sometimes it means talking about your marriage and realizing that you've been giving away your power without even knowing it, because all of it matters when we're building a business that is supposed to give you more of the life you actually want.
If you want support figuring out what that could look like for you, schedule a free consultation with me. We'll talk about where you are, what you want to create, what's getting in the way, and whether coaching makes sense as a next step. You'll find that link in the show notes. Go to jenna.coach/121. And until next time, next week on Wednesday, remember, a boundary isn't about controlling what someone else does, it's deciding what you will do and trusting yourself enough to follow through. I'll see you next week.
Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of How to Quit Your Job: A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Life and Business You Love. If you want to learn more about how I can help you stop making excuses and start making moves, head on over to www.jenna.coach. I’ll see you next week.
Today, I want to show you that difference. I want to give you some examples because this came up in a coaching session recently, and it completely changed the way my client was looking at a situation in her marriage. It left her feeling so much more empowered. And I think it might change the way you think about and utilize boundaries, too.
Welcome to How to Quit Your Job, the podcast for moms ready to ditch the nine-to-five and build a life and business they love. I’m your host, Jenna Rykiel. Let’s go.
Hi, mom friends. My kids are finally back in school, and it feels so, so good. If you're part of the crew whose kids didn't go back until August 31st this year, I see you. I'm here for you. I feel like the entire month of August was full of moments where I wasn't the mom I wanted to be. We had very little childcare in August, which made navigating work and life so complicated. Don't get me wrong, I love hanging out with my kids. I have two. I have a four-year-old named Adley and a two-year-old named Jude.
I also love that my husband and I have flexible schedules. We're both entrepreneurs, so we can basically make anything work. And also, I love when my kids and when I'm back into a routine with school. I love that they are no longer barging into my office during client sessions. And although every client of mine is so gracious and understanding, I'm sure they are glad it's over, too. So, a shout out to teachers and educators. You make me such a better mom.
Today's topic is a request that I had straight from a client. I love that every day I'm in the work and every day there are moments in sessions that inspire topics for episodes. And every now and then, I have a client say to me, you need to do an episode on this. I've shared a lot on this podcast about how the coaching I do is more than business coaching. It's more than helping moms figure out a marketable idea. It's more than helping them create clients, make money, and everything in between within business. It's more than business. It's life coaching because as we evolve our business, we are evolving as humans. And so it's essential that I help moms process and evolve in their personal life just as much as it's important that I help them build a business.
And I think today's conversation is such a good example of why and how that works, actually, because if you're a mom trying to start or build a business, you don't stop being a wife, a mom, an employee, a daughter, a friend. All of those parts of your life come with you.
You can have the best business strategy in the world, but if you're spending all of your energy feeling resentful, helpless, frustrated, or like everything at home depends on you, you're not going to have the same energy available to build something of your own.
So yes, today we're talking about boundaries, but we're also talking about something I coach on constantly, which is how to stop giving away your power in one area of your life so you can show up more powerfully in all of them. We can't build a strong business without a strong foundation within ourselves. And I'm really excited about the next interview coming out either next week or the following with my good friend Alexina, where we actually dive deeper into that piece, the strong foundation within ourselves. It's imperative that we work through all the sticky stuff in order for you to build a business and a life that you love.
So, one of the topics that I'm very regularly coaching on that seemingly has nothing to do with business is relationships, and one very important relationship at that, our marriage. It's rare that I work with a client who is married and their partner never comes up. In fact, I think that every single married client of mine has had at least one coaching session where we worked through some frustration, annoyance, disappointment, or anger that had to do with their partner. This is incredibly normal. When we decide to share our lives with someone, we are signing up for a lot of compromise, a lot of adjusting, a lot of sacrificing, and having to navigate not only our own mental drama, but someone else's mental drama. Throw kids on top of that, and it takes a lot of intention and effort to keep relationships feeling satisfactory.
Now, if you are a single mom and you are listening, this episode is still for you. I'm going to use an example from a client's marriage, but the boundaries themselves, they do not just apply to our partners. And I'll go into some examples outside of marriage. So stick with me if you are a single mom, but I am going to give an example of a relationship, a partner, a marriage, because so many of us struggle with boundaries with our partners. And so it's a really good place to start.
So this client of mine, actually, she's also seeing a couples therapist, which again, is not rare for my clients, actually. My clients are people who want to solve problems, they want to create change, and they have a vision for how something should be in their life. And if it's not meeting that, they're going to do something about it. Those are my clients.
So I've trod a bit lightly, not wanting to step on toes. I'm not a marriage therapist, but it became clear to me that couples counseling was no longer feeling good for her. It was no longer really working. And it wasn't feeling good because the other person wasn't holding up their end of the bargain. My client felt helpless. She felt exasperated. She felt like the world and all the responsibility of the family was falling on her. Not to mention, she's starting a business on the side of a full-time job to get the family in a better financial place. So not only is she the breadwinner, but she's also going above and beyond to make sure her family has financial stability. But she's also at her wit's end, feeling like everything is out of her control, which led to a conversation that her and I had about boundaries.
Now, she was very familiar with boundaries. She had been trying to enforce boundaries with her partner. She had been trying to take care of herself with boundaries, and it just felt like it wasn't working. She'd set a boundary and find herself feeling even worse when it wasn't upheld. And I told her, you're doing boundaries all wrong. And that's what we're going to talk about today, how to do boundaries the right way.
Boundaries are an important opportunity for empowerment. When done right, there is no way that a boundary can leave you feeling helpless or out of control because boundaries are all about control, the control that you have, and they do not depend on someone else following the rules.
So let's take a look at this. I'm going to just make up an example, and this is not necessarily a boundary that I've enforced. It might be, but of course it is inspired by a true story. Let's say that my partner, Chris, is always late. I'm sure I've mentioned this before on the podcast, and to his credit, after 13 years together, he's much better. But in those early years, he was always late. I tried so many things. I tried threats, I tried reminders, I tried really explaining and being direct about how I felt. There was a part of me that decided him being late meant that he didn't care about me or my time. I will say, for anyone in this position, I've done a lot of my own work, and we've done a lot of work together since then where not only is he better, but we've also realized he's just time blind. This means that I make all the decisions in the family around timing of things, and I rule with an iron fist around that.
Anyway, I think partners being late could probably be its own episode, but let's say I had a boundary that if he was going to be late, he needed to let me know in advance. He would either have to call or text to let me know in advance. And this is actually a boundary that I had set early on. This feels good on the surface. It's like I'm sticking up for myself. I'm telling him clearly that this is what I need, and it's a pretty fair and decent compromise. But this boundary, even if he agrees to it wholeheartedly, is extremely problematic.
It's actually more of a rule than a boundary. And rules can often be broken, both on purpose and accidentally. And what happens when it's broken? What happens when he loses track of time and is late and then also doesn't call or text? A complete blow-up will follow because he didn't respect the boundary. He agreed and he didn't do it. I'm giving him all of my power with that boundary by deciding that all will be good if he takes action in the way that upholds the boundary.
If our boundaries depend on other people, we will likely be disappointed, maybe not all the time, but it's not foolproof. They are human. They will mess up, just like we mess up, especially because our boundaries are often based on what we think is easy and makes sense, not necessarily what is easy for them. If it was easy, I'm sure they'd be doing it.
So what do we do instead? What is a way to create a boundary that leaves us feeling in control and feeling empowered? A boundary is not what you want someone else to do. A boundary is what you will do as a consequence of someone else's behavior. Let me show you what this looks like and how it's different. Instead of saying you need to text or call if you're going to be late, that's the boundary that depends on him and whether he acts in a certain way. Okay, I'm giving all of my power to him in that boundary. Instead, I could say something like, if you are late and you don't text or call, I'm leaving without you.
I actually do think this is one that I did implement at one point. I think it was pre-kids when we had an event we were going to. I said, if you aren't home by whatever time it was that we needed to leave, I'm going to leave without you. And guess what? He was on time. But also, if he wasn't, I'm in control. I leave and I get to go to the event at the time I want to get there. I can also do this without a ton of anger and resentment because suddenly I'm in control, which feels really good.
Another example, I remember my coach giving an example a while back about her mom that I thought was really powerful. So she had a bit of an overbearing mom that would just show up at her house unannounced and she hated that. My coach hated that. So for years, she had a boundary with her mom that you have to call before you come over. And her mom just didn't uphold that boundary. And it led to more frustration, more anger, more resentment, and truly a terrible relationship with her mom.
So then she set a proper boundary. She figured it out, right? She said, "Mom, if you come over without texting or calling first, I'm not unlocking the door for you." Now, here's the really important thing about proper boundaries that keep us in control. It only works if you actually do what you say you're going to do. Her mom does not learn to reach out before she comes over if my coach lets her in anyway. My coach has to lock the door and she has to stand behind that.
We are adults with free will, so we can technically do whatever we want. Her mom can show up whenever she wants. But in a world with free will, there also has to be consequences. There's consequences of the door staying locked and you not being let in if you come over unannounced. There's consequences that I leave for the event without you if you're not back by a certain time. If you don't uphold your own boundary, then it makes sense that someone else also will not uphold your requests.
This is also a really helpful tool with kids. If you have a boundary around, let's say, not hitting your brother, and then your son hits their brother, which never happens in my house. Just kidding, it's like an hourly occurrence. It's always a fight. But if I have a boundary not to hit and my son hits, there's an elevated level of disappointment or anger or frustration that happens because my son didn't uphold my boundary.
So instead, if we're setting a proper boundary, I would say something like, "If you hit your brother, I'm going to remove you from the area because it's my job to keep everyone safe." With that, I am in control. I act in a way that upholds the boundary. It doesn't depend on my son not hitting. It's what I'm going to do if he hits. He hits and I take action. I'm empowered to remove him, just as I promised would happen if he hit.
Another example that happens all the time is in the bath. My two-year-old and four-year-old, they're always best friends, and then the biggest enemies. And so they'll be in the bath and they will be fine. And then suddenly they will be splashing and hitting and at war. And I have to say, if you do X, I'm going to take you out of the bath. I will say nine times out of 10, one of them will do whatever the thing is I said, you know, whether splashing water out of the tub, whether it's hitting their brother, whether it's taking the toy, and then I just remove them from the tub. Okay?
We are empowered. We are taking action and we are not depending on somebody else necessarily listening to us or upholding our rules. Why we don't want to do that is because we give our power away to somebody else. I know I said this before, but when we are depending on somebody else's behavior, our happiness or our satisfaction depends on them. We don't want that. We don't want our satisfaction in anything in life to depend on somebody else.
For my client, this whole concept and this new way of thinking and looking at boundaries and utilizing boundaries, it brought a ton of relief because it was no longer that she had to depend on her partner to uphold or follow a boundary. It was now that she got to decide how she was going to respond when he behaved in a certain way. It's enormously empowering. And all of this may sound like it has nothing to do with business, but it has everything to do with business. If we are feeling small and like life is out of control at home, we're not going to show up as our most powerful selves when we're working on the business. Even if we try to hide it or brush it aside and focus on our business, it just doesn't work like that.
The parts of our life that feel out of our control, they will be distractions, they will be energy sucks, and they will absolutely impact how we make decisions. And we will make decisions in a less empowering way. It's so important that we see ourselves as one human, not compartmentalize the parts of ourselves that feel mutually exclusive, because the person who is at home trying to enforce boundaries to take better care of herself is the same person who is at the networking event talking about her business idea. Both versions need to feel empowered. Both versions need to feel like they are in control of their life. Boundaries, when done in the right way, are a really powerful tool to do that with.
So I want to leave you with this question. Where in your life are you calling something a boundary, but it actually requires someone else to behave differently in order for you to feel okay? And what would change if instead you asked, what am I going to do? Not what do they need to do, not what should they do, not what would make my life easier if they would just freaking do it. What am I going to do? Because that's where our power is.
And this is exactly the kind of work we do in coaching on a weekly basis. So if you're a mom who has been thinking about starting a business or you've already started one and you're trying to figure out how to actually build alongside your job, your kids, your marriage, all the things in life, I want you to know that we don't just work on the business in isolation. Okay? We work on the whole person building the business.
Sometimes that means figuring out your offer or how you're going to find clients. Sometimes it means working through the fear of leaving a career where you've always known exactly what was expected of you. And sometimes it means talking about your marriage and realizing that you've been giving away your power without even knowing it, because all of it matters when we're building a business that is supposed to give you more of the life you actually want.
If you want support figuring out what that could look like for you, schedule a free consultation with me. We'll talk about where you are, what you want to create, what's getting in the way, and whether coaching makes sense as a next step. You'll find that link in the show notes. Go to jenna.coach/121. And until next time, next week on Wednesday, remember, a boundary isn't about controlling what someone else does, it's deciding what you will do and trusting yourself enough to follow through. I'll see you next week.
Thanks for listening to this week’s episode of How to Quit Your Job: A Mom’s Guide to Creating a Life and Business You Love. If you want to learn more about how I can help you stop making excuses and start making moves, head on over to www.jenna.coach. I’ll see you next week.
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